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Raederle on Life, Spirituality, & Polyamory Live radio episode where Eric interviews Raederle Phoenix on April 30th 2017. Raederle discusses her life in general talking about her hobbies, her day to day life, her belief systems, her two husbands, and her work. Photos, font, artwork and video overlay are Raederle's creations (with a few photos taken by Lytenian, Greg or Raederle's parents) unless otherwise stated. (There are a few photos by photographers that are Raederle's friends – they're cited on the photos they took.) WRFI Community Radio for Ithaca and Watkins Glen. Raederle on Business, Nutrition & Health Feb 17, 2013. Andrea Todaro and Dale Martin interview Raederle Phoenix about her business in Western New York in the field of health, nutrition and raw food. Click here to view more radio show episodes.

One person may be craving almonds while another person may be getting intuitive guidance to eat almonds. Let's look at how these two different people will behave: Eating Really Fast – A Sign of Cravings If you're craving almonds, you'll feel inclined to eat them quickly, and now . If you're getting an intuitive feeling from your body, you won't feel in a rush. If you're craving almonds, you'll find it hard to chew them all the way before putting more in your mouth. If you're intuitively guided to eat almonds, you'll find it easy and relaxing to chew them thoroughly. Cravings give a false sense of urgency. Your intuition knows you have plenty of time. Eating Lightly – A Sign of Intuitive Connection When you're in touch with your body, you'll find you don't need to eat as much. You'll feel inclined to eat more slowly and chew more thoroughly, which will allow you to absorb more from what you eat. Also, you'll eat e...

"How do you handle emotional safety and managing your two simultaneous relationships? Isn't it challenging? Why do you feel like you can handle a third relationship?" Emotional safety is a subject of much personal interest and struggle for me, so I'll start there. I find my two relationships highly complimentary. I've been with Lytenian since December 2009, so our relationship has a lot of history. We're both introspective and committed to a non-fluff sort of relationship. We're actually better at crying together and tackling tough emotional conversations than we are at being light-hearted. Hence, Greg coming into my life in 2015 being such a relief – we have fun together and do the fluffy things. Greg has become Lyth's best friend, and the three of us living together has more advantages than disadvantages. I practice something called conscious , material love . This means that, like most people today, I am subject to the pit-falls ...

Selfish. Self-centered. Self-absorbed. These are three terms that we've got absolutely wrong. What these terms imply with their words is not aligned with the connotation. The word "selfish" implies that someone is of themselves. The term "self-centered" implies that someone is centered within themselves. The term "self-absorbed" implies that someone is absorbed in themselves. Yet the connotation that we apply to these three terms is not at all what the words themselves imply. Consider the behavior of a so-called selfish, self-centered, self-absorbed person. They do things that hurt other people. They are blind to the pain of others. They run rough-shod over other people's feelings , dreams and hard-work. They don't seem able to really listen, really understand, really empathize or grok anyone at all. They are unkind, uncaring, and inconsiderate. They are highly preoccupied with showing off and collecting praise, but don't pay at...

What is the difference between something you're addicted to and something you need? The only difference between an addiction and a need is the perception that the addiction is something we don't actually need. The things we need and the things we're addicted to function in the same way: We feel compelled to ensure that we can reliably secure them. We do everything we can to ensure that we get them. We feel real suffering when we fail to get them. The ironic thing is that there actually is no difference between a perceived need and a real need. So the "addictions" are just as real because the person with the addiction is perceiving a real need. Even when they intellectually can say, "I don't actually need this," they still emotionally feel that they do. If they didn't feel they still needed it, they would give it up. This means that your "real" needs become addictions the moment that you intellectually realize t...

What does an intuitive diet look like? Following my intuition has led me to make an endless series of shifts in my diet. I'm honoring young aspects of myself that still miss fried foods by incorporating all-organic, home-fried foods that are gluten-free and sweetener-free and taking digestive enzymes with the meal to compensate for the difficulty in digestion. I'm honoring my body with days where I rest primarily and consume nothing but water. I'm honoring my ambition with days where I eat for energy; every morsel of food is delivered to give me maximum benefits. On days like that, I consume a mostly frutarian diet with perhaps a little cashew yogurt or a little home-rolled oats. I'm honoring the nutritionist in me that studied plant composition for years by including greens in every day that I'm not strictly fasting, whether in the form of a giant salad, or a fresh vegetable juice. On days where I'm short on time, I have several scoops of ...

I find it hard to talk to anybody about any of the strong opinions I've come to over the years about black culture versus white culture. I grew up in a ghetto that was part black and part Puerto Rican. I experienced a lot of racism against white people, and against myself in particular. I was harassed and threatened. Many of the white people I associated were beaten up by local gangs. One such person showed up on my doorstep severely bleeding when I was fourteen. Are you offended yet? Should I say "African American" instead of "black" even though the black people I grew up around called themselves black? Should I call it simply a neighborhood and not a ghetto even though the people in my neighborhood called it a ghetto? I was starting to like this girl who organized events for people in their early twenties in Buffalo. It was a "after you leave youth group" group. She found my ways of speech so offensive that she unfriended me on facebook and s...

July 12th 2017 Blog Post / Journal Entry In 2013 I met a woman who taught me to go into my pain. This technique of going into the eye of the storm led me to being better-able to follow my joy. It seems that what Teal calls spirituality 2.0 is the best way to achieve spirituality 101. Or at least, I realize that is what I've been doing for years. I experience joy only after going through a period of intense venom, grief, fear and regrets. The more deeply I go into these emotions, and the more I let them wash over me and consume me, the more complete the peace and joy is at the end of it. Teal talks about this natural progression of emotion in her video How to Express Emotion as well as in her second book. But in her video Spirituality 2.0 – where she so beautifully shows us her tears – she talks about 2.0 coming only after we give up on reaching joy through external means and we begin to look inward. I feel like I'm trying to look everywhere for joy, despe...

How I converted my menstruation from frustration to vacation . . . My Period Ritual; A Refined System for an Enjoyable Menstruation Two days before I expect my period I begin to drink more water. I eat grapefruits, apples, oranges, smoothies and salads. Everything is geared toward hydration and consuming more minerals. The day before my period I pull the cream-colored sheets off my bed and put on black sheets and pillow cases. I switch out my tan-colored coyuchi towel for an old black towel in the bathroom. When showering, I make sure the bathtub is clean and ready for me to get into it should I decide to use it. When I go grocery shopping the week before my period I make sure to purchase organic frozen raspberries and oranges – two of the most effective foods I've found for combating menstrual cramps. These days, the ritual is a fine-tuned, easily flowing system. But that wasn't always the case for me. The Typical, Modern Experience of Menstruation ...

Abraham Maslow created a concept called the hierarchy of needs, placing physical needs such as “eating” at the base of the hierarchy, then “safety” above that, and then “belonging” above that. This theory purports that someone who can’t meet their physical needs will not be worried about feeling safe or feeling a sense of belonging. I disagree with Maslow’s concept for one very strong reason: As a child, all of our needs are dependent on being loved by our parents. The younger the child, the stronger that dependency. This means that our most fundamental programming is, “I must be lovable,” because without that, we wouldn’t survive past childhood. The more conditional the love of the parent, the more deeply this concept will impact the child. If the parents were fairly loving regardless of the child’s choices, then the child will grow up feeling freer to “just be themselves.” Regardless of the hierarchy of the needs in question, we all have the same basic, underlying needs....

If you read books like Erich Fromm's The Art of Loving , and Neal Walch's Conversations with God , and Miguel Ruiz's The Mastery of Love , you'll find mixed definitions of love. All of the definitions are right, but we're using one word to mean too many things. The kind of love that saved Harry Potter from Voldamortz's spell, for example, is not the same kind of love you experience when we talk about "falling in love." It is important to note that most of these terms have a positive connotation and a negative connotation, which is determined by context. Most of these terms are not inherently good or bad. While agape clearly has a positive connotation, epithumia has no positive or negative connotation. Ancient Terms for Love, Lust, Attraction & Affection Philautia (feel-ow-tee-ah) — Self love, confidence, healthy pride. Instead of saying, "She has an abundance of self-love," you can say, "She has an abundance of philautia,...